Amna Naqvi – The Unwanted Daughter

Amna Naqvi – The Unwanted Daughter

Amna Naqvi – The Unwanted Daughter 150 150 Comfort Aid International

There is very little joy in Amna Naqvi’s (alias) tender life of eight years so far. All she knows as the daughter of a peasant farmer is an arduous and dreary existence; a daily routine of early mornings, drawing water from the backyard well, sweeping dirt floors, washing clothes and shaping stinking, still wet, sometimes still warm cow dung, swarming with gleeful flies and parasites, into Frisbee-sized discs and slapping them to the cowshed wall for drying. And in the afternoon, after a lunch of leftover rice and watery daal, helping her mother in the kitchen, rolling out chapattis and preparing dinner for a hungry family of seven.
Amna is unwelcomed by her father, Abul Fazl (alias), from the moment the midwife declares the arrival of the baby girl. Abul Fazl, a slight, sinewy, skinny man with a permanent scowl on his face, grunts angrily, curses his karma and storms off from his place on the charpoy outside the hovel from which, moments ago, his wife of thirty years moaned away the painful pangs of childbirth. Amna is a late, errant addition to the family, a surprise to both the parents and her siblings. The parents already have four children, born almost in regular succession, sexes likewise divided. The first two girls are already married off and are now mothers. Abul Fazl had to work hard and long, even go into debt, to come up with the dowry demanded for them. He rarely thinks about his daughters now, seeing them once or twice a year when the family gets together for the two greater Eids. In his ignorant mind, daughters are burdens who almost broke him financially and made life hell for him when he despaired of a lineage. He blamed his wife for the shortcoming; it must be her weak womb that was the culprit. He thanks Allah they are no longer his crosses to bear.
The following two boys, likewise uneducated, are healthy and active, useful labor for the land that the family rents and coaxes to produce wheat and sorghum and corn in rotation; they share the yield with the landowner as land rent. The elder son has recently married and is already a father of a daughter, another catastrophe in the mind of Abul Fazl. But that is not directly his issue, so he does not fret too much about it. The idea of educating children is alien to him, never crosses his mind. The nearest schools are almost ten miles away, another planet away in the mind of a rural UP peasant, and where would the money to educate the boys come from? So, the kids go to a local imam bargah and get their education from the mullahs. For Abul Fazl, that is plenty. He needs his boys in the fields, not in some classroom. As for his girls? Well, daughters from decent sayyed families do not go to school. They stay within the confines of the mud walls and take care of household tasks and serve the men who work in the fields. And when decent rishteys come knocking at age fourteen or fifteen or sixteen, why, they are married off. Jaldi-jaldi.
The parents, the two sons, the bahoo, the infant and Amna live in a semi-permanent mud and straw house in the village of Sayedpurah, UP, on the banks of the river Yamuna. Halwaana is the collective name given to a cluster of five villages. The inhabitants are mostly sadaats from the Rizvi and Naqvi heritage. There are no formal schools for miles around, so the residents are mired in illiteracy, ignorance and grinding poverty that repeats itself with each successive generation. Some of the financially better-endowed families do send their children to school by bus, but not the gentler sex. They are ‘protected’ and disposed of at the most opportune rishta.
When the young bride bahoo, Amna’s cousin, a khaala’s daughter, joins the Naqvi’s after marriage, she brings her trousseau as dowry.  She is born and raised up closer to New Delhi, where secular schooling is possible, so she is somewhat literate.  But even then, it is restricted to rudimentary training, and she is betrothed on the day of graduation at age fourteen. Included in her trousseau are copies of fading comics and Bollywood filmy magazines that she shares with Amna, who is instantly glued to them. She understands nothing of course, but the images paint a picture in her imagination. Of a world far removed from hers, of beautiful people and glamourous clothes and an unimaginable lifestyle. She gets to know Shahrukh and Salman and instantly falls in love with them. Her Bhabi claims she had been to the movies and seen both the heroes, larger than life, on huge screens; Amna’s imagination goes wild; there is no power in her village.
Recently, there is excitement in the village when Comfort Aid International (CAI) and Al-Imaan Charitable Trust (AICT) win over the heart of a donor to construct an elementary school within walking distance of the five villages. But the plans are shelved when the donor backs out for personal reasons, the primary one being that the area is too remote for them to be directly involved. A valid and understandable justification, perhaps? Amna’s imagination, hopes and emotions summersaults with the developments.
But these are the very locations that CAI is trying so hard to bring out of darkness into light. We do not seek to make Amna into a doctor or an engineer. Yet. We are working to take the first step. And grasping tightly to Allah’s promise of certain success when we take the first footstep in His way. We at CAI have globally proved this fact thirty-three schools over.
The remoteness and logistical challenges notwithstanding, Amna’s village will have a school. Soon insha’Allah. It is a challenge CAI Trustees and I will take on and given Allah’s help and your support, this project will see the light. So Amna, here’s a solemn promise – although you don’t know the CAI donors, Trustees and me yet, you soon will. Your imagination and aspirations will be rekindled, yet again. You will get a beautiful, modern school where you will see and learn that it is your Allah-given right to a quality education; all you will have to do is reach out and grab it.  Then, and only then, will you love Allah the way He wants to be loved and understood.  You will touch the sky, little girl; Shahrukh and Salman are no contest; inconsequential.
Nothing is impossible.
I have used my imagination to bring certain facts and realities in these villages to an interesting read on the dismal situation in Halwaana. Everything stated in this Blog is spot-on, except for the noted aliases.

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